Write your story

A family friend recommended a book to me that I am in love with.  I usually don’t read; I’m pretty sure my little brother didn’t think I could read until I was in college- that’s how much I read.   Yesterday I was sitting in a coffee shop reading this book and I read a sentence that made me want to go up to the stranger next to me to talk to them about it – I found it an amazing concept: “No girl who plays the role of a hero dates a guy who uses her. She knows who she is. She just forgot for a little while.”

Here is a little back story.  A guy in the book was worried about his daughter because she was hanging out with an icky guy.  He had tried to yell at her, and ground her and all that jazz, but it wasn’t working.  Don (the main character) had said that this girl was living a bad story right now, and this dad got to thinking about the story he had written for those in his life.

I thought that this was such an astounding idea – we write the story we want to live.  We all have villains, and price charming, and are waiting for the musical number; but who casts the story.  I know that there are people that I have decided that I am not going to like without even knowing them; I cast them in a certain role before I even knew what I had done.

The real question is who are you allowing to write your story, and whose story do you have a role in.  When we are young we tend to let others write our stories; parents, teachers, friends.  As we become adults we take charge of our story and decide how we want the story to end.  Have you taken control of your story, or are you still playing out a plot that someone else has written for you.

In the past I have talked about labels and I think that this has some overlap.  We rarely place labels on ourselves, typically labels are placed upon us and we choose to execute them – we are participating in someone else’s story for us.  When we choose to not fit the stereotype of a label is when we begin to write our own story.

Now I am not telling you to sit down and plot out the next sixty years of your life in one afternoon; but I challenge to sit down and think about what you really want.  Take control of the story line, crate your own plot, and cast your story.  What I believe is the best part to writing your own story is that it can change, I mean they make sequels and prequels to books all the time, you can do the same thing!  If you don’t like the way the plot is going, you have the power to change it.

Writing your own story isn’t easy; that’s why so many people just live the story someone else has written for them. The hardest part may be the action step.  We sit and daydream about what we want out life to be, the way we wish our story was going; but how many people actually turn that dream into action.  When you are a member of a family your stories overlap, and if you change your story it may change the family’s story, and sometimes it is just easier to go with the story that has been written for than to create your own story.

People are ever changing, as should their story.  Take a look at your story and see if you like how it is playing out; if you do not, what are you going to do to re-write it.  You life is your own, make it your story that one that you want to it to be.  You have the lead role in your life, stop playing a supporting role.  Take control of you story and play it out the way you want it to be.  Live happily ever after.

You have it all & Confidence,

Lyndsay