One week...

A lot of things can change in a week, and this week has been a pretty awesome we of change for me. I haven’t really changed, or I don’t feel that I have, but things have changed this week.  This week started off okay for me – a big event didn’t happen to change my life, but I did gain some insight into the life that I am currently living.  I have learned a few things that I value more than I thought I did, and there are people who are in your life for a reason.

This week started with me going to work and being the crazy, yet adorable, girl that I am; I was working but had a little voice in the back of my mind thinking about him.  I had sent him a text the night before and was waiting to hear back from him –it had been twenty four hours and I had not heard anything.  That was Monday, it is now Friday and I still haven’t heard from him­- the lack of communication made me realize how much I do value communication. This week also helped me see how strong I am and that just because one boy wouldn’t give me what I wanted doesn’t mean that I won’t ever find a man who will give me what I am looking for – or maybe something even better. A week can make you change the way you view a person.

Tuesday was another not so awesome day- I was very excited to have two of my sorority sisters come and visit me this weekend; on Tuesday I found out that they wouldn’t be coming.  I was disappointed as I am always looking for people to go on adventures with, and I haven’t seen these girls in a very long time.  I love these girls and I always will, but this week taught me to be realistic in my expectations.  You can’t make people change, sometimes the things that drive us nuts about people are also the things we love the most.

I was then able to go on an adventure to Milwaukee to do some training for work.  It was wonderful to know that I am able to take care of myself in an unfamiliar place. On top of it all I was able to meet up with a dear friend when I was in town, and we had a blast. We were able to girl talk and it was amazing how much better I felt about everything when someone validated the way I was feeling and told me that I was special.  This week taught me that some friendships remain strong no matter how much time has passed.

On Thursday I decided to come home for a long weekend- a five hour drive after eight hours of training may not be the most fun thing I can think of, but I am so glad I made the trip.  Not only did I get to pretend I was a rock star for five yours (I can totally sing just like Kelly Clarkson) but I danced in the car, and every song I heard made me think of an event that I was happening in my life.  I have a five hour drive to think about and decide how I wanted to handle the events of that past week.  Not only did I realize that some things just don’t matter, some people never change, and that I am stronger than I think I am; but I also came to the conclusion that this is life and I am willing to accept it.

So many different events and feeling can happen in a week. Instead of trying to not be upset that he never called, or that my friends bailed on me, I love that this happened because it allowed me to come home and see my family.  I can’t explain how amazing it is to have my dog go crazy because he hasn’t seen me, or the smiles on the faces of my family that didn’t know I was coming home.  You can either let the events that have happened consume you, or move you forward. I am moving forward; moving forward  doesn’t mean that I am not hurt that last week didn’t go the way I planned, it just means that I am going to accept it and move on instead of being stuck in a place where I am not happy.

We spend a lot of time wondering what could have been, which causes us to miss out on what is.  Don’t let one week make you forget that when you wake up tomorrow a new week is here with new challenges and opportunities.  Don’t miss out on what could be because you are still thinking about what was.

You have it all & Confidence,

Lyndsay

Lyndsay's top ten on being single

I am at a time in my life when every time I get on facebook I find out that someone is getting married, having a baby, or posted another twelve pictures of their kids.  I love being able to see this and am happy for my friends, but I am not going to lie as a single girl it gets old.   Most of the time I like being single, it’s pretty awesome, but there are days when I am very jealous of my friends who have started the next part of their life; so in honor of all my single ladies out there, I am making a top ten list of why it is awesome to be single – in the eyes of Lyndsay.

10) You get the whole bed to yourself. You don’t have to share the covers, no one is breathing on you, and you don’t have to sleep on a quarter of the bed because the other person is taking up the whole bed.

9) Laundry for one is wonderful.  I can go a pretty long time without doing my laundry because it’s just me! I don’t have to make sure the other person has clean clothes; I just have to worry about it I have enough white tanks to last me or if my skinny jeans are clean.

8) Shoes. I love shoes and because I only have to worry about clothing and feeding myself I can use any extra money I have to spend on really important things, like shoes and make up.  AND I can bring them into my house without having anyone wonder how much money I just spent.

7) Eating an entire meal of cheese is totally acceptable.  Not going to lie, one night this weekend I had mac and cheese, cheese and crackers and cheesecake– again no judgment from others. It was a wonderful calorie filled day.

6) Flirting whenever I want. I can go to the store and flirt with whomever I see. Every guy is a potential date… until you see a ring. Best part – you and flirt with more than one person at a time and you don’t have to feel bad!

5) Bad movies are totally okay. You want to have a Nicholas Sparks weekend when the big game is on – you go for it.  If you want to watch PS I love you and cry for two hours, it is totally acceptable (and you can eat as much cookie dough as you want in the process)

4) Your facebook skill remains as sharp as ever! You can spend as much time as you like stalking the guy you met at the bar last night, or looking to see what they guy you kind of liked in high school looks like now.

3) Decorating is easy.  My room right now is hot pink, and I have picture of my family and friends and random trinkets all over the place.  I also have a dresser full of hair products and make up, and I don’t have to clean it up or put it away because I am the only one who uses it!

 2) The only person you have to think about is you – doesn’t matter what someone else wants to do, or what they want to eat. You can do what you want, when you want to.  Shopping again, third time this week- why not! I mean I moved to a new state on a whim.

1) I can take care of myself!  Yes, it is wonderful to go out to dinner and have my date pay for it, and who doesn’t like to receive gifts; but I love knowing that I can take care of myself and I don’t need anyone else to help me live the life I am living.  I have come to realize that I am pretty awesome and I don’t need a man to complete me life, he will only enhance it.

Single ladies can have a wonderful life, and depending on the day we will admit if we love it, but sometimes it’s hard.   So to all my wonderful ladies out there, you are amazing. I know it. You know it, and you don’t need to be in a relationship to make you feel like you are worthy – because you are pretty awesome just the way you are.

You have it all & Confidence,

Lyndsay

It takes a village

“It takes a village” has always been a saying that I found to be very true. I know that I would not be who I am without many of the people in my life.  From family, to friends, to teachers and mentors; all of these people have had an impact in my life and have made me who I am today.  It is times like today when I receive wonderful news about people in my village that I become aware at how true this saying really is.

I received very wonderful news from my sister today – she revived a very big honor and award on her college campus that is usually reserved for seniors; she is a junior.  I enjoyed getting these phone calls when I can hear the smile in her voice about how the process to receiving this award was going. It was a nomination, an application, an interview, and then a final decision committee meeting; after all this she was one of just a few students to receive this award. This is a big deal.

I was talking to her on my way last night, when she was finally able to tell me that she had received the award. I am pretty sure I screamed in my car.  As we were talking I was sad to tell her that I wasn’t going to be able to make it to the award ceremony, and she stated that I would be there in spirit.  I then said “what are you talking about, I am there – you wouldn’t be who you are without me!”, and her reply was so sweet. She said “I figured that our years ago.”

Hearing that you have made a difference is amazing; it brought a smile to my heart.  My little sister is an amazing woman and I am so lucky to have her in my life; but what I find more amazing is that she considers herself lucky to have me in her life.  I know that my sister did all the work to receive this honor, but I can’t help but feel that this was a family effort – it took a village to make her the woman she is today.

Look at the people you have in your life, and who you are able to influence every day.  You can either choose to have a positive influence on those around you or a negative one.  I try to have a positive influence on all those who are around me, and I have found that it make those around me more positive, which in turn means that I am surround by positive people. It is a happy never ending cycle.

The moral of the story is to make sure that the village that you surround yourself with is doing their job and making you into the person you want to be.  Sometime you luck out and happen to come from a family of awesome people who help you become an pretty cool person… but when you are on your own, starting a new village (what I am doing right now) I am looking for people who are going to make me happy, make me smile and laugh, and make me a better person.  I hope that you are working to make your village grow, and that you are member of many villages as well.

Tell the people in your village when you are proud of them, not only will it make them feel better but it will make you feel better as well – so to Miss Camryn Nelson, I am so proud of you and your more recent accomplishment. I love you and I can’t wait for your adventure to continue.

You have it all & Confidence,

Lyndsay

good day

Today was a good day, nothing amazing happened but it was a good day.  It started with me writing, then got up and had a dance party while I got dresses and ready for my first day of work at my new job.  I went to work and met some awesome people and the day only proceeded to get better from there.  After work I talked to four of my favorite people in the world.  I spent over an hour today talking to people that make me smile, then I came home and made a quasi nutritious dinner, and checked my email to find a message from a friend just checking in on me. I was a good day.

It is days like today that I probably will not remember looking back on my life, but they are the days that make life worth living.  If you were to ask me to name some of the best days of my life they would include – My college graduation, the conference when everyone when to Disney, and singing in the car while driving around Hawaii.  Now the moments are magical, and I will love them forever, but I would not have moments like this if I didn’t have normal, non-adventurous, days like today to help me know when something is really special.

I believe we spend a lot of time looking for the days when something big happens, a day you will remember for the rest of your life; but the feeling of love I have in my heart right now matches the days I listed above.  Sometime it is all about recognizing the little things in life that help make your whole life complete.   I know that I have had many days like today, but today seems special because prior to today I was just having okay days, not good days. When I look back on my life, not in ninety years but when I look back at it today, I remember moments that made me feel loved – and what more could a person ask for.  I have been so lucky to have people in my life that have never made me question if I was loved or not.  Knowing that I have this amazing support network around me is such an amazing feeling; I hope you all get to have one day.

Take a look at the people you have in your life; who is making it better?  I know that I feel better when I talk to my family, so I try to make sure I talk to at least one member of my family every day.  Find the people in your life that make you feel better and make a point to add them into your everyday life.  Little thinks like getting a text from someone who makes you feel special can change a person’s whole day.  Whose day can you make better because of what you are willing to offer them.  You know what makes the people in your life smile, and see what you can do to make sure they smile every day.

I one day hope to look back and remember the feeling that I have right now – that everything is good and that days like this are normal.  Today was nothing special, but it felt amazing, and the best part is that I know that I will continue to have days like this, because I am going to be happy and my life is going to be good.  Do your part to make your life as amazing as you want it to be…

You have it all & Confidence,

Lyndsay

will this matter in six months?

Every person that has ever really made an impact on my life has a song that I associate with them; and if you are really special you may have more than one.  I believe I could put together a multi disk complication of the songs that just remind me of my family. When I hear songs that make me think of the person I associate them with I get a big smile on my face and start to think of all the fun times we have had together; remembering the good can help me get over the not so awesome moments.

Last night I was another adventure that didn’t turn out at all like I had expected, but it was still a good night.  I drove and hour to meet up with a friend of mine, but due to an odd turn of events we weren’t able to meet.  While I was driving home from my friend’s house I heard a song that made me think of my grandma.  I was driving with a big stupid smile on my face thinking about my Grandma and how she would have handled the situation- it was at this moment that I realized this situation didn’t need to be handled.

As you can see I still struggle with letting the universe make my plans and not pushing plans onto me.  I am sure that if everything would have worked out last night that I would have had a good time, but for some reason, they didn’t work out, and I am sure in a week I will have figured out why my plans fell through.  I know it is hard, and I continue to struggle with it, but sometimes you need to take a step back while you are in the moment and ask yourself “will this really matter in six months?”

I have had to say this to myself a lot in the last few days – will this matter in six months.  Like most people, I tend to get so caught up in the moment that I don’t allow myself to see past my current feeling.  If I am mad, I just want to be mad and not think about anything else; but what did I miss out on because I was mad? Was I so mad about my plans falling through that I didn’t take a chance that would have allowed something else amazing to happen? Was I so consumed in feeling sorry for myself that I missed an opportunity to make someone else’s day better?

It is so hard when you are felling such strong emotions to look past them and try to decide if you will feel the same way about the situation in six months, or if you just need to me mad for a few minutes so you can move on and continue to live your life?  Think about a time when you felt angry because something had happened to you- do you still feel that same anger today, or have you been able to move on?

In this day in age when I can go on facebook and find out anything about anyone I was ever associated with, am I allowing my feelings to get the best of me? Are you so mad that you are going to vent about it in your latest post – or are you going to wait a few minutes and decide that if you were to go back and look at your posts, would you feel silly for making such a big deal about something that turned out to be insignificant?  I am in the process of finding out what works for me to be able to recognize that I am angry about a situation, but to move past it quickly.

What I usually do is call my mom or a friend and just vent- they typically validate my feelings which allows me to feel as if I am not crazy, which makes me feel better right away.  I then take a few minutes and allow myself to be angry.  Anger is a totally normal feeling and if you are feeling angry don’t try to suppress it- get mad, but don’t stay mad.  I then listen to the song that makes me think of a person that always makes me feel better, a happy memory, or I listen to the song that makes me think of the person that upset me.  After listening to the song I have all of the memories associated with the song and person fresh in my mind; I then ask “will this matter in six months?” 

This whole process can take anywhere from three minutes to three days, I just keep repeating it until the answer to “Will this matter in six months?”  is no.  In a world where our words are open to anyone who really wants to read/share/find them it is more important to make sure that what you are writing is more than what you are feeling at that moment – do you really want to ruin a friendship because you posted something horrid in the heat of the moment?

Take a breath, take some time, and take control.  You have control over how you react to any situation, and if you don’t like how you are reacting you can change that- you have the power.

You have it all & Confidence,

Lyndsay

happily ever after

I have always known that I wanted to write, I never really thought that I would be writing a blog, but I knew that one day I was going to write a book.  The book was going to be about my adventures in dating, as I have some pretty wonderful stories; some of the highlights include: the guy I am dating moves to another continent; while at the home of the guy I am dating another girl comes over and kisses him (but I am not supposed to me mad); and maybe the most hysterical is a guy going crazy because I barrowed my friends potato masher (yep, potato masher).  I could go on and on, thus why I thought a book about my adventures in dating would be a best seller!  I haven’t written this book yet because I wanted to wait for my happy ending; when I ride off into the sunset with prince charming… but who says that is a happy ending?

While lying in bed last night thinking about what I was going to write today I was thinking about my happy ending, and what I wanted it to be.  I, like many women my age, have a pintrest board dedicated to a wedding that I may not have; you see I am not engaged- shocker! I believe like many people my age, we look to the wedding as the happy ending, and we don’t see much past that moment.  I know at some point I want to have my own kids, so wouldn’t they also be part of my happy ending? 

I am lucky to have parents that are still married and I know that they still love each other.  Even when my sister and I look at my mom and question what she ever saw in our father (LOVE YOU DAD!).  Is what my parents have happily ever after?  I have had the opportunity to talk to my parents about what some of the happiest days in their lives were, and they don’t say their wedding.  Yes they enjoyed it and they are glad they got married, but this was just the beginning to the next chapter of their lives; they are still working on living happily ever after.

So why is it that I feel the need to hold off on a project that I have always wanted to do until I am married, so my book has a happy ending?  And who says that my happy ending is going to happen at 27, maybe I will be 97 before I can look back on my life as say that my story was a good one, and that I have lived my happy ending not just waited for it to happen. 

As of today, I am making a promise to myself to live my happy ending.  I am going to do what I want to do when I want to do it, I am not going to wait for prince charming to take me away and have that moment be the start of the rest of my life – the rest of my life starts now.  What have you been waiting to do? Are you not going  back to school because you feel like you are too old- is your age stopping you from living you happily ever after; or are you hesitant to make a big change in your life because you are waiting for prince charming to make the change with you.

You have the power to write your own story and you can end it any way you want to, and you have the power to decide when the next chapter begins.  My next chapter started today, when I decided that I don’t need a prince charming to make my life complete; I am pretty awesome and I am certain that my prince will need me in his life just as much as I will need him in mine.  My prince is only going to enhance my story, not complete it.

 How is your next chapter going to start?

You have it all & Confidence,

Lyndsay

Love.

Love is a feeling that people spend their whole lives looking for.  We watch movies to see others fall in love, and we go to weddings to celebrate when others find love.  Love crosses lines, and races, and social issues and language barriers.  Most people when they think of love the probably think of a man and a woman kissing or planning their future together, but love is so much more; and we tend to forget the love that we have in our lives right now.

I am 27, single and I haven’t every really been in a serious relationship; but by no means does this mean that I am not loved, nor that I have felt love.  This past weekend my family drove over 6 hours to spend four hours with me.  If that isn’t love I don’t know what is.  We were able to laugh and had a good time, and it was totally worth the drive.  When I was saying good bye to my family I started to cry, because realistically I am a crier, my mom said that she was happy that I was crying because crying meant that I loved her – like that was ever a question!

This statement got me to thinking, what are ways that I show, and receive, love without it being a romantic love.  I believe that there is love around me every day.  It could be a cute text message that I get from my family, or looking at picture that bring memories back of a time when I felt loved.  I personally believe that we as a society spend too much time trying to show others that we are loveable that we don’t truly love the most important person in our lives… ourselves.

Self love and self acceptance is a very important trait to have.  I believe that if you truly love who you are others will also love you in return.  I have been talking to some of my friends back home about how I wish I had more friends in my new area; and they have said to just give it time because everyone likes me.  I am not entirely sure that I believe this and I am sure I have some people out there would disagree, but I love who I am, and I know that there are others who will also love me.  I haven’t ever really struggled making friends because I accept who I am, which allows me to accept others for who they are. 

When I wake up every morning I lay in bed and think of things that I am happy for, and that I love.  This morning, I knew I wanted to write about love so I thought about the traits I have that I love – here are a few examples of what I love about me:

• I love that I have an awesome brain that allows me to have amazing dreams that I don’t want to wake up from
• I love that I have the ability to laugh at the world around me, and makes the life I live easier to live when everything is funny
• I love that I am learning to let the day control me, instead of me controlling my day – it has allowed for some awesome opportunities to come into my life
•  I love the feeling when I crack my back and it feels as if all the stress I was carrying is gone
• I love the way I am able to take every song that I listen to and have it relate to my life – music puts a smile on my face as I am able to remember all the amazing events and people in my life

Your ability to love should start with yourself and work its way out.  I am not saying that this is easy and sometimes the hardest thing to do in a day is thing of five things that you love about yourself; but I promise you that as you begin to love who you are, you will attract others into your life who love you for you as well.  I know that you are a loving person and able to give so much love to the world, you just have to believe it!

You have it all & Confidence,

Lyndsay

Make it a best seller!

There are mornings when I wake up and I know that is going to be a good day; today was one of them.  I knew that I didn’t have anything that I had to do today – it was a day for me.   I was awake for less than two hours when I knew that today was going to be amazing.  I started the day by talking with two of my best friends, then saw a lovely quote posted on my wall: “‎There is no skill better to acquire than to be conscious of the present moment, be willing to let go of everything you've ever learned and jump into a spontaneous, weird and unknown new life. All the planning in the world can never prepare you for the time when you must leap into the unknown all by yourself. Welcome to that moment." 

What is so funny about this quote is that I have been thinking a lot this week about why I feel the need to plan everything.  I love to plan, I don’t really like surprises; I like to be in control.  It’s not that I have every minute of my day planned, but I like to know what I am going to do and when I am going to be doing it. This need to plan is something that I can always remember doing- for a long time I wanted to be an event planner; I don’t think you can get much more of a planning job than that!

I have found that when I don’t plan things, my life turns out to have some amazing things happen in to – I meet really cool people, I get a job, or I have a new adventure – so why am I trying to force a life onto myself? Yes, think about that for a second.  What story are you writing for yourself that isn’t as amazing as the one the universe has planned for you?   I had never thought about the story the universe has for me, and I am sure it is greater than the one that I have in the works.

Planning is something that I find comfort in, if I have everything planned out than no one can hurt me; but can anyone really hurt you.  Physically yes, but usually I physically get hurt by wearing dumb shoes or just being the complete opposite of graceful.  Think about the last time someone hurt your feelings – did they really hurt you or did your interpretation of their actions make you feel hurt.  It all comes back to the story we have written for others, and sometimes they don’t live up to the story we wrote; but are you living up to the story that was written for you?

I have read a lot about learning to live in the moment, and I have found this hard for me to accomplish; the planner in me comes out.  Living in the moment is all about enjoying what is happening right now and not missing the beauty in your life right now because you are looking/planning/fearing what may happen in the future. I can say from person experience that  the experience I have had that are unplanned are my favorite memories, and I am sure that I had fun at planned events- but those events doing bring the same warmth to my heart.

My goal for this weekend is to not plan what is going to happen, but to just let it flow.  I believe that by letting go of the fear of “what if” I will be able to enjoy the moment that is happening right now.  Write your own story, but allow the universe to make it a best seller!

You have it all & Confidence,

Lyndsay

twitterpated.

A few weeks ago I moved to a new place where I know few people; this has allowed for a lot of “me” time.  I had thought that moving that I was going to be able to hit a restart button to my life, I would be able to begin a new life and become a new me – what I found out is that I really like me and I like the person I am, flaws and all.  I know that I have spent a lot of time talking about how amazing you all are, and that you are in control of your own story; but I have a confession for you-  at times I am totally clueless, and the scared little thirteen year old that still lives in my head comes out with a vengeance.

You may be surprised to read that; a lot of people believe that if someone is comfortable writing, or speaking, or teaching in a certain area then they have it all figured out; that my friend is a total lie.  I have found that the good teachers will admit that they don’t know everything and that they are still learning.  I had a phone call today with someone who is living my dream, and she said that she still doesn’t know everything and that as she learns more she evolves and sometimes she has to ask for help.  Some people may find this discrediting, but I find it so admirable, and I love the strength that it takes to admit it.

I had a rather heated conversation with a friend last week; and at one point he called me out on my ability to coach.  He wanted to know why I thought that it was okay to coach other people about finding their “you complete me” person when I haven’t found that person for me.   The thing he may not fully understand is that there is so much more to being a coach than having lived the life the person you are coaching is living.  I am the person I want to coach- I am single and learning to love myself.  Usually I think I am pretty awesome and that I have a lot to offer, but there are times when I have absolutely no idea what I am doing, and I turn into that thirteen year old again.

This past week I met a new guy, and I am totally twitterpated.  I am nervous and anxious and it is totally wonderful and horrible feeling all at the same time.  I have no idea what to say, or how to act at all – the cool, confident Lyndsay is currently on vacation or something; but thirteen year old Lyndsay is ready for the game.   The same woman who can walk into an interview and not worry about it because I know how lucky this company would be to have me, and that I would make this place a better place for everyone – still gets nervous talking to men.

I spent a half hour on the phone tonight with a good friend who kept trying to tell me to see the good in this – all I can see is that I have lost that last 14 years of my life and everything I learned in that time.  She told me to enjoy this feeling and that I need to live in the moment… does that sound familiar, not like I have ever written anything like that before.  She asked me what I would tell my clients to do: I would tell them to enjoy the moment, and if this guy doesn’t realize how lucky he is to have a girl as awesome as you in his life he doesn’t deserve you right now.  So why can I say that to you all and mean it with every bit of my heart, but I still struggle with it internally?

The answer is: I have no idea!  I know that I am a work in progress and that I am learning new things everyday that are making my life more amazing, and I hope that you are too.  I am learning that not all risks are scary, and that sometimes you need to learn the hard way- which occasionally is the only way I learn.  The point of today’s blog: never believe that someone has all the answers, because if they are worth listening to they will admit that don’t know everything. 

So to all the ladies, and gentlemen out there who take the time out of your day to read my blog- I thank you and hope that you are continuing to improve yourself and that you are strong enough to admit that sometimes, you have no idea what to do, but you are enjoying the ride.

You have it all & Confidence,

Lyndsay

See the Good

If you were to walk into my bedroom you would probably think that a little girl lives here.  I have a lot of pink, and glittery things, and flowers; to me it is just a happy place to be.  I was looking at something things that I had tagged on a website under: makes me smile.  I found that the pictures that make me smile remind me of my family, or make me feel like a princess.  I just celebrated my 27^th birthday and you may think that at 27 I need to “grow up” , but there is something about knowing that prince charming is still out there, that glitter can make any day better, and a Disney movie can make any day better.

As we grow up we start to conform to the norms of society- we get jobs because we have to pay our bills.  We stop talking about once upon a time, and start talking about things that are happening in the world.  We no longer see fairies out of the corner of our eyes, but we always run into our exes.  I love the life I am living and wouldn’t change it for the world- and I have kept some of my childhood dreams with me- have you?

There comes a time in everyone’s life when we stop playing pretend and have to deal with reality; my question is why?  Why is it odd that I love the color pink, and fairytales?  I like pink because it is a happy color and it makes me feel better.  I like fairytales because they remind me that the good guy wins, the evil step sisters don’t always get what they want, and if you wait long enough your will be able to ride off into the sunset with prince charming.  I see nothing wrong with seeing the good in the world.

I know that there are people who don’t see the world the same way I do – and I understand that. There are days when I don’t see the world through rose colored glasses, but I try to make sure that I still have the ability to see the world that way.  I believe that it is when we become hard and stop laughing that we stop seeing the good in the world.  With all the bad things that are happening it is completely understandable that it is hard to find the good, but finding the good is what makes the bad easier to handle.

I dare you to look around your life and find the good.  It can be so easy to see the things that aren’t going the way we want them to, but what about the parts of our lives that are going wonderfully.  I may not have my dream job; but I have enough money to pay the bills and have fun.  I may not be married, but I have had time to find out who I really am.  I may not be able to see my friends and family as much as I would like; but I have time to work and when I see them it is even more special.

Having the ability to find the good in the bad is a quality that will put you in front of the rest of the pack.  By finding the good you have an outlook on life that not many others will share with you, but they will be jealous of your ability.  I challenge you to look at what you would consider “bad” in your life and try to find the good.   Carry something with you that will lift your spirits if you are in a bad mood.  You have the ability to see any situation as a good situation, it just takes practice.

You have it all & Confidence,

Lyndsay